This post was originally shared with my newsletter subscribers on Valentines Day.
“Today many are celebrating St. Valentines Day and you probably think that I’m going to tell you that being with your twin flame has to be the most romantic, passionate and spiritual thing you can experience…
Not really, let me explain.
If you do some research on twin flames on the internet you will find tons of dramatic and heartbreaking stories of people who have met their twin flames.
Instead of finding their true love many people find that a relationship with their twin flame most likely turns out to be like one of the following scenarios:
1) They live on the other side of the world and being together is near impossible.
2) The Runner-Chaser Karmic Loop – one person tries everything to make the relationship happen while the other one (usually the man) runs away.
3) The Ultimate Karmic Mirror – both partners mirror each other’s karma like a magnifying glass and unbearable pain results from this.
4) The other person is already in a relationship (having an affair creates karmic imprints for both parties).
And yes, there are the rare twin flame relationship stories that turn out to be the most higher loving and spiritually conscious relationships, but these are extremely rare.
Why Are Twin-Flame Relationships Like This?
The first thing you need to understand is that when it comes to relationships, even twin flame relationships, each person has free-will. Even though to one of them the twin flame connection is astronomically evident (pun intended) the other one might be oblivious to the twin-flame connection.
People who are in twin flame relationships need to work on themselves 10 times more than people who are in any other type of relationship. And usually there is one person that is very focused on clearing their own emotional baggage, transmuting their karma and growing spiritually while the other person is not (once again, usually the man).
Some will try desperately to rescue or change the other person but this only aggravates the problem. It might not be easy but their free will must be honored.
The second thing you need to understand is that just because that person is your twin flame doesn’t mean that YOU HAVE TO be with them. What many people are not aware of is that you are not supposed to be together in a relationship in ALL lifetimes (plus not all twin-flame are necessarily romantic relationships).
Unfortunately the great majority of people who know about twin flames believe that they have to be with their twin flame. And because of the free will choices and/or the karma buildup each person has, this is near impossible.
But let me ask you this…
Would you rather be or try to be with your twin flame and end up in a dramatic, painful and non-functional relationship?
OR
Would you rather be with someone who is not your twin flame and end up having the most fulfilling, higher loving and passionate relationship?
The answer is simple. However, too many people get attached to the twin flame label. Don’t get me wrong, I know there is a spiritual connection like no other but if it’s not meant to be then it’s not meant to be. It takes two people to make it happen.
So if you find yourself in this twin flame predicament and you truly desire to be in a relationship then make yourself a priority and choose SELF-LOVE.
Don’t force the relationship with your twin flame or try to wait for them. Continue to raise your frequency and focus your intent on attracting a partner that will want to be with you and work towards the relationship with as much commitment, responsibility and integrity as you are doing.
After all, you will meet your twin flame again 😉 And at some point, sometimes during their life review, he/she will most likely realize what an incredible opportunity he/she missed to be with you. Then on the next lifetime they will have the opportunity to step up and do what it takes to find you and be with you.
In the meantime, make sure you enjoy this lifetime and cherish the wonderful experience that is being madly in love with someone who respects, honors, loves and cherishes you.
How Do I Move On From a Dysfunctional Twin-Flame Relationship?
Moving on from a twin-flame relationship is easier said that done. The karmic ties, cords of attachments and shared emotional pain body can create extremely strong energetic attachments that keep twin-flames in a dysfunctional relationship karmic loop filled with breakup and redemption cycles.
In order to successfully transcend a dysfunctional and painful twin-flame relationship is imperative to clear these energetic ties and blockages, starting with cutting cords of attachments.
Cords of attachment are energy structures between two people that cause patterns from the past to continue into the present moment. Cords of attachments can:
1) Distort your thinking and feelings
2) Cause unconscious re-actions
3) Keep you stuck in old patterns
4) Serve as a mechanism through which other people can syphon your energy
Clearing cords of attachment is the first step to clarity and freedom. They are the most significant and treatable cause of problems in your life.
If you would like to know more about cords of attachments click here to read my article on 7 Signs That Show You Have Cords of Attachment.”
How Do I Manifest A Relationship In Line With My Higher Self?
The key to manifesting the BEST relationship possible is to CHANGE and RAISE your frequency. Your frequency controls EVERYTHING! You will only be able to attract a specific grid of people, places, times, things and events based on the frequency you have.
The Universal Law of Frequency Resonance and the Universal Law of Correspondence (As within so without) never fail.
I have created a meditation/session to help you clear the top priority energetic blockages – soul fragments, karmic imprints, unresolved emotions, negative thought-forms – that keep you in a low frequency relationship karmic loop. The 5D Relationship Manifestation Portal is the ultimate relationship tool to help you manifest a relationship in line with your Higher Self.
Sincerely,
Gustavo Castañer