The karmic loop of attracting unavailable men is one of the most prevalent relationship karmic loops amongst women. The source of this karmic loop can vary depending on the type of unavailability we are talking about, yet there is always a common theme of falling in love with a man who cannot for some reason reciprocate the commitment to officially be together in a healthy relationship.
Let’s review the different types of unavailable men:
1) He Is Already In A Relationship
This is one of the worst scenarios that you can find yourself in. Getting involved emotionally, mentally and/or physically with a man who is already in a relationship will spawn a series of karmic imprints and cords of attachment for both parties involved.
A very common scenario is when a man madly falls in love with another woman but is unwilling to bring his current relationship to a resolution. There are men who will tell you that they will soon leave their wife/partner but they need to take care of some things first. The problem is that more often than not that time never comes and the karmic affair continues to take its toll on your frequency and soul.
Then there are men who will tell you that for some noble reason they can’t leave their wives, like staying in the relationship for the sake of their children. They will tell you that their heart is yours and that they aren’t really with their wives anymore, but the fact that there is a level of deception involved and that the relationship hasn’t come to a completion will always cause an unnerving feeling towards the relationship.
Even when a man chooses to leave his wife/partner and be with you, the truth is that you will never be able to FULLY trust him. Your subconscious mind will always know that he was unfaithful to a woman he once loved, he betrayed and abandoned her and in the future he could do the same thing to you.
Trust is one of the greatest pillars for a healthy and conscious loving relationship. Without trust the relationship will be doomed and your heart chakra will never fully open to that man.
2) Emotionally Unavailable Men
The man that will say “I’m just not ready for a serious relationship, I need time and space to find myself or to heal from my last relationship”.
It’s not uncommon for this type of man to dabble with your feelings, giving you hope by opening up to you only to close and retreat soon after. Women who suffer from the rescuer archetype will often stay in this relationship because they believe they can change him and win over his heart.
This type of man usually suffers from a deep unresolved pain, sometimes past childhood abuse or a previous relationship that ended up in heartbreak. As soon as you get close to their emotional wounds they will withdraw and close their hearts. Their unwillingness to feel and process their pain makes them very unstable partners and will most likely drive you crazy.
3) The Long Distance Love Of Your Life
Across the internet there are thousands of stories of people who found their soulmate, their twin-flame or the love of their life. There are perfect for each other, they resonate on so many levels but….he lives thousands of miles away.
The connection is undeniable and the love is deep but the distance is unbearable. Sometimes they will find a way to be together and make it happen against all odds. Unfortunately for many is just not possible to live in the same country and be together.
Despite this being true love, the fact is that he is still unavailable. Once again there is something within you that attracted you to a person whom you have no possible way of creating a physical and stable relationship with.
4) He Is Afraid of Commitment
The man who wants everything from you but a relationship. This is the most common type of unavailable man and the unavailable men that we discussed above will often suffer from this fear as well. Fear of commitment is a rampant dis-ease amongst men.
Whether is because of they fear intimacy or fear getting hurt, these type of men will not compromise their “freedom”.
How To Transcend This Relationship Karmic Loop
The fact that you are attracting unavailable men indicates that there are energetic blockages within you that RESONATE with this karmic loop. As you clear, process and unwind these unresolved issues within you and raise your frequency you will begin to attract men who are ready for a committed relationship.
Here are a few suggestions to transcend this karmic loop:
- Heal the father/daughter relationship, especially if your father was in some way unavailable.
- Clear all cords of attachment with the other person
- Clear all karmic imprints and soul fragments related to the source of attracting unavailable men
- Unwind the emotional pain body caused by these relationships
- Clear your past relationship karmic slate
- Choose and practice self-love!
The last recommendation is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. Practice being Divinely Selfish, put yourself first and LOVE yourself. Make a declaration that you deserve a man who will make you a priority and will treat you like a goddess. When you choose to chase unavailable men you are telling your subconscious that this is what you deserve.
Usually in one healing session I can help you clear most of the energetic blockages keeping you in a karmic loop. However, if you feel that your relationship karmic slate is quite heavy and you want to continuously raise your relationship frequency then signing up for the 5D Relationship Manifestation Portal is your best bet.